Boundaries Are Good For Children!

by | Oct 28, 2022 | Family, Parenting with Purpose, School

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Boundaries are good for children and parents. What boundaries do you have for your child? They provide your child with the opportunity to be successful. Your child learns responsibility and how to manage their behavior to make positive choices throughout their life. Boundaries create a loving family culture based on mutual respect, fairness, cooperation, and kindness.

Grandmother and child walking on street, boundaries

Setting limits at home helps children adhere to boundaries given at school and elsewhere. Boundaries give our children a “backstage pass” to our decision making process. It helps your kids develop respect for your needs and decisions. This teaches them to respect their own needs too.

Boundaries help establish structure, guidelines, and reinforces desired behavior. Guidelines for children provide them with the sense of security they need to be successful. Knowing boundaries and how to successfully maneuver through them to be successful gives children a sense of self. Boundaries also help children become successful adults by being able to cooperate and socialize with others.

children and self-management

Children that learn self-management through their parents setting limits will have an easier life. They will be able to participate in life rather than survive because they have social skills. Children learn to appreciate their efforts and successes and to view failure as a learning opportunity.

So how can parents establish boundaries with their children knowing that the decisions made will not always be the popular one? Establishing boundaries means you are being a strong, effective parent. You’re doing what is best for your child to grow up to be productive and caring.

Being a responsible parent means taking charge, setting expectations and establishing limits. It’s a parent’s responsibility and in the best interest of your child to set boundaries and expectations. Your child learns the importance of working together and helping out for the good of the whole. Your job is to teach your child how to be a responsible, independent adult.

children need to hear No

family hand in hand walking down sidewalk

Boundaries often mean saying no to your child. It is difficult, but overall your child will respect you more and will learn a life lesson. “No” is about safety, structure, time, cost, performance, and discipline. You should not negotiate with your child in most situations. This will look different at every age. Parents have the experience in life and resources to set the boundaries.

Consistency is very important to children. One example is when your child wants to bring a toy to the table and the rule is no toys at the table- you can say that toys are not allowed to the table and suggest putting the toy on the counter until dinner is over.

examples of boundaries for children include:

  • Hold an adult’s hand when crossing the street.
  • Stay in the yard when outside.
  • An adult must be present when swimming.
  • Set a bedtime.
  • Brush teeth every night and morning.
  • Pick up toys when done and put them away where they belong.
  • Phones remain on the kitchen counter at night.
  • Use manners- please and thank you.
  • Put cups, dishes, glasses in the dishwasher.
  • Turn out the lights when you leave the room.
  • Homework needs to be completed before going out with friends.
  • One stay-over a weekend.
  • Complete laundry weekly/put laundry away.
  • One hour of technology per night.

For children, it is important for parents to set boundaries, follow up and adhere to them. Children develop lifelong skills and gain self-confidence. Boundaries are good for children and parents and can help them be successful.

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Boundaries Are Good For Children!

By Dr. Kim Grengs, Ed. d., Parent Coach

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