Are you frustrated because your kids don’t get along? Is there bickering and arguing at every meal? This type of sibling rivalry makes you worry that summer break will be an unpleasant experience for everyone.
It doesn’t have to be that way!
Sibling rivalry leads to conflict, jealousy, and tension within the family. However, there are several strategies you can use to address and manage sibling rivalry effectively.
Spend One-on-One Time with each child: Dedicate individual attention to each child, giving them the opportunity to feel valued and loved. Plan regular activities or outings with each child to strengthen the parent-child bond and reduce feelings of competition.
Teach problem-solving techniques: Encourage your children to express their feelings and resolve conflicts peacefully. Teach them effective communication skills, active listening, and compromise. This helps them develop the ability to work through disagreements and find mutually satisfactory solutions.
Avoid making comparisons: Comparing one sibling to another can intensify rivalry and create feelings of inadequacy or resentment. Recognize and appreciate each child’s unique strengths, talents, and achievements, emphasizing that everyone has their own individual strengths and weaknesses.
Promote cooperation and teamwork: Engage your children in activities that require collaboration and cooperation, such as household chores, family projects, or team sports. Encourage them to work together and appreciate the value of teamwork rather than always focusing on individual accomplishments.
Be a positive role model: Model positive behavior and healthy conflict resolution within the family. Show respect, empathy, and effective communication in your interactions with your children and partner.
By implementing these strategies, you create a nurturing environment that fosters positive sibling relationships, reduces rivalry, and promotes the development of strong bonds between siblings. Check out the video below for some more tips on sibling rivalry.
Are You Worried Because Your Kids Don’t Get Along?
By Lisa Reichelt, M. Ed., Parent Coach